Photos by Halle Kennon Photography
When I saw these pieces with “Selectively Social” on them on ASOS, I had to have them.
It was like a light bulb went off in my brain. These two words together PERFECTLY describe me. Growing up, through high school and college, I was definitely the girl who loved all of the attention. I was an actress, a dancer, and here I am now putting my whole life on the internet for all to see! However, as I’ve gotten to know myself better over the past few years, I realized that I’m not the outrageous extrovert I thought I once was. I would say I am more of an introverted extrovert. Hence: Selectively Social.
Yes, I love to be around people, and spend time with my husband, family and best friends, but I do not like meeting new people or being in crowds of strangers. I almost said hate, but hate is definitely too strong a word here. It is more like a true discomfort. When we get invited to events around town, or networking events with like-minded creatives, I do enjoy myself. BUT, it is definitely out of my comfort zone. It is kinda crazy and silly to think that I post photos of myself and my personal thoughts on my personal domain on my corner of the internet, but am uncomfortable meeting new people IRL.
I have found that I am not the only blogger who feels this way. In fact, I’d go so far as to say it’s pretty common. We just simply feel more comfortable expressing ourselves from behind a screen, for whatever reasons. I think that Catherine and I both share this “selectively social” attitude and sometimes we have to push each other to step out of our comfort zone in order to create. { I wrote about this a little over on TCP here } And that’s one of the many reasons I’m glad to have a partner with me on this journey!
Anyways – nothing too profound to say here, except that I felt TRULY SEEN when I saw this dress & other pieces in the collection (lol). If these Selectively Social pieces speak to you too, join me in letting the world know!! All the pieces are under $50.
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Gorgeous outfits as always and I can definitely identify with being “selectively social.” I’m an extroverted introvert lol! I do love people and I love meeting new people BUT I pick and choose who I want get to know on a more personal level and how much information I want to volunteer about myself. I can come off pretty shy and hard to get to know at first but it’s because I’m constantly observing others and how they act. Plus I only like to add to the conversation if it’s worth doing…not just to talk lol! And since I’m an introvert, I need A LOT of alone time to recharge so I can go into hermit mode without warning. With that being said, I’m a very warm, bubbly individual and I love to be goofy and make others laugh, but I choose who to show that side of myself to 😉
Lizzie
http://www.lizzieinlace.com
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TOTALLY get all of this, girl!!! I love following along with you and how honest you are about everything, including this!
Being selectively social may almost need to be a prerequisite for the blogger life! lol All joking aside, love the outfits! xoxo, Sarah
I think selectively social really hits the nail on the head! What a fun piece to have and I’m sure it would be a good ice breaker for those social situations you’d rather avoid!
Chic on the Cheap
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right??? totally apt!!! and i totally agree
Such a fun dress and love how you two styled the tights differently. I think people are becoming more selectively social because of social media!
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TOTALLY agree!!!
I think I may be even more than selectively social, because I rarely even enjoy being around others at all (aside from my husband and my immediate family) haha! I’m a total introvert. But I do know I’m totally into this outfit and how you’ve found that it describes you!
Wow this dress is so stinkin’ cute. And totally descriptive of how I’ve turned out selectively social as an adult too, haha!
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right??? so accurate!!!
Selectively social is a good thing! I think everyone kind of gets the same way as they get older. We love our people but socializing with big groups or people can be a little daunting!
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TOTALLY agree!!! we do so much socializing on the internet it gets harder IRL lol!
These outfits are super cute! I’m an introvert through and through— it doesn’t necessarily mean I’m shy, it’s that I value my alone time and that it’s my way to recharge. Being around people for me can be absolutely draining— even with friends! Def not a bad thing to be selectively social, especially with so much going on.
These are really neat outfits girls. I love the edgy vibe.
Xx, Nailil
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Honestly I feel like I’ve become selectively social the older I have gotten… and I don’t hate it!
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couldn’t agree more!!!! xx